#1 Rule To ALWAYS Look High Status (The Old Money Look)
Just being lazy. You see, humans, like all social creatures, have a ranking system in their society. We’ve done this over the last hundred thousand years because it just makes things run smoother. Those at the top often got the lion’s share of the resources and those
At the bottom. Got the scraps, whatever is left. Unfair? You betcha, 100%. But, is it accurate? Is it a fact? Yeah. Now, you may ask and I think it’s a great question, why those in a lower status situation, why don’t they rise up and take from those on top?
Well, the answer is they do initially when they don’t know their place. But, what happens when you throw a brand new chicken into a flock? Very quickly, it figures out the pecking order. Anyone else out there have chickens? Yeah,
When you see this, it is cruel. But, it’s usually done within a week and that new chicken You see, social status in its pure form prevents unneeded bickering and fighting. Basically, when the animals know their place, those in the lower rungs are not
Getting beat by those in the top rungs. Now, what does all this have to do with you? Well, the answer is if you can look higher status, especially if you are of higher status when it
Comes to wealth, when it comes to fitness, then you’re not going to have to go out of the way. Okay? Thank you. To prove yourself, people are going to treat you as you should be treated. And for those of you guys that are up and coming, haven’t yet truly established yourself,
Well, appearing higher status is going to give you a leg up. Now, starting things off, let’s first talk about your physical fitness. If you want to come off as a high status individual, you want to pay attention to
Your health. You want to pay attention to the way that you train and take care of your body. Now, FYI, this is not the number one status indicator. But, in most professional situations, you just want to come off as someone That is healthy.
Somebody that takes care of his body. Somebody that can take care of their own. The next characteristic of a high status man is he has a constant energy. What I mean by that is he’s steady, he’s calm. He doesn’t have these ups
And downs. He doesn’t have a whole lot of anxious energy flowing out of him. He’s not all over the place. He doesn’t seem like he’s ever out of place. If you want to come off as high status, you need to really do a good job
Controlling the insecurity. Breathe. Everyone feels, but a high status man, he’s got that under control and it’s not evident. He’s not broadcasting it to everybody in the room. Other people can sense this and you want to be careful about that. Tied right with that, you want
Your movements to be slow, calm, and deliberate. The next characteristic of high status men is that they are non reactive. You see a high status individual, They have control of their situation and they’re not they don’t really care what other people are saying about them, maybe even to them.
They’re like, okay, that’s you, that’s your opinion and I’m not going to let it bother me. Now, up to this point, we’ve talked about behavior. Now, let’s talk about style. Yeah, this is a style channel. So, if you want to appear high status, then you need to dress in a way that
You look high status. Now, most people’s mind’s eye, when they think of a man that’s successful, they think of a man wearing a suit, wearing a sports jacket, a man that is dressed. Well, but I’m not saying you got to go that route, it really depends on you and the image
You want to project. Whatever you decide to do with your style, remember two things. One, make sure it sends the message it reflects who you want to be perceived as. And, two, practice wearing this. Because even if the look is a bit outlandish to most,
If it feels natural to you, you’re going to have the confidence to be able to pull it off. Now, what about subtle ways to display high status? One of the easiest ways for a lot of
Guys is to wear a timeless, elegant, and maybe a higher end watch. Tons of options out there. And as you can see, we’ve got some that have a little bit more bling to them. Other ones that are going
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First up, if you’re going to an event, if you’re going to be going to a party, if you are headed someplace, go with other People. When you walk into a party, even with two other dudes, what you’re sending a signal of is that you are an
Accepted group. You are a person that other people have deemed worthy of being close to. Next up, showing up with your guy friends, that’s cool. But, showing up with a woman, showing up with two women, all of a sudden that puts you at a whole other
Level. For you single guys, what this is signaling to all the other women present is that This guy has been approved by these women. Now, how do you make this happen? Come on, guys. Get creative. Maybe you’ve got some female friends from work,
You’ve got that platonic neighbor that’s been wanting to go out. The point being is you want to get other people to show that you are an accepted member, that you are approved by them because all of a sudden other people are going to be more open to approving you.
Now, if that’s too much or you want to double down, go to a known cause. Environment, a place where you actually know the bartenders and you tip them well. They know you, they’re excited to see you. Everyone knows you because you’re friendly. This is like,
You know, cheers, go to a place where everybody knows your name. When you do this, all of a sudden, new people, I haven’t seen her before, all of a sudden, she knows that you’re very friendly. Everybody seems to know you. You are,
Again, an approved what was formerly a stranger. You’re kind of, you’re part of the group. Now, building off this and this works really well at business networking events, or even parties. is be a connector. So, again, this is a party where you show up and you know
Maybe three or four people. But, what’s interesting is those people don’t know each other and they’re on opposite ends of the room. But, you know that Jill over there should be talking with Mary or Mike should be talking
With John or whatever combination you want to put together because of things you know about them. Well, guess what? You start talking with somebody, then lead them over, make a quick introduction and all of a sudden you get These two people talking. Now, you can choose
To exit or stay in that conversation, but you’ve already shown that you’re the type of person that you know people. And by bringing people together, all of a sudden your status with both of those people that you’ve now connected, you gave a warm introduction to, all of a sudden has gone up.
Now, let’s say you’re in a group conversation. How can you show higher status in this group conversation by leading the conversation? And it’s not something that you need to be talking about yourself. Instead, you’re asking questions that direct and include. Others,
And people can pick up on this. When you’re asking a question, especially if someone keeps talking and talking, there’s three other people that aren’t saying anything. You can say, hey, you know, all of a sudden bring in and ask how this relates to what
Mike is working on. And Mike, can you expand on how you guys did this? All of a sudden you are creating the conversation. This one takes a little bit more skill. They maybe don’t realize what’s happening, But, they know that whenever you are added to the conversation, you make it better.
So, again, your status in the group goes up. Now, what about when you’re seated at a table? How can you maintain high status? Well, the thing is have everyone sit down below you and you stand, yes, on that chair. No, I’m kidding. Don’t do that. You probably want to choose actually
Where you’re going to sit. If you can, sit at the end where you have people on both sides. It looks like you’re holding court, but there’s a reason that we would see royalty or people of honor at the end points of a table because they have a commanding view. They can actually speak.
Others can hear and listen to them. I personally on a longer table. Try to avoid sitting in the middle area because you’re being drawn into one conversation, you’re being drawn to another. Yeah, you’ve got somebody across from you, but you’re limited more than you are at the
End points. Now, gents, if you’re enjoying this video, smash the like button. Seriously, your status will shoot up. Actually, the status of this channel will shoot up a little bit because it lets the YouTube gods know that, hey, this video is worth watching.
And I appreciate it. Now, if you’re at this point thinking, Antonio, man, you’ve talked a lot about social skills. I don’t have any of those. You need to develop them. These are things that men of high status, they aren’t born with this. They work
On it. They realize that if you want to have status, that means that you need to be social. If you’re going to be social, you need to have the social skills. Now, the quickest and easy advice I can give you is get good at asking questions and
Genuinely Being interested in other people. It seems like it’s a rare trait nowadays that somebody actually genuinely listens versus waiting for their time to speak. Instead, you want to pull out more, you want to you’re really interested in this person
Especially if they’re not interesting, they’re not used to this. And they are going to open up, they’re going to talk to you, and they’re going to like you. Not because you’ve said anything to them, but because you actually listened to them. Now, that being said, you will be expected to speak,
So. Practice speaking. One thing I like about these videos is I really get the chance to put my thoughts together. And I feel I’ve become a better presenter, a better speaker, simply because I’ve practiced it. And it’s like anything when you put in the reps,
When you think through all of a sudden, you’re going to be able to articulate yourself. Better. I do believe in reading, listening to audio books, really also talking about things that you’re comfortable talking about. They may be talking a lot about politics, but can
You bring it to something that maybe you know a little bit more about? You’ve traveled, you’ve been to different places. So, instead of talking about the politics, let’s talk about the culture. Let’s talk about the people. These are things and it’s… You know, one degree of separation
And also it’s something that you will be able you have a stronger lexicon. You’ll be able to go into and be able to express yourself better and therefore come off as having better communication skills. Now, communication is a lot more than the words that come out of our mouths.
It’s the way that we stand, our posture. So, make sure that you Roll the shoulders back, good posture sends a signal. You don’t want to try to act like you’re trying to minimize yourself. I know Amy Cuddy’s research has kind of been debunked,
But I think it made a great point about, you know, you don’t want to make yourself look smaller. Don’t be afraid to take up space. And let’s talk about eye contact. When you’re talking with somebody about 70 percent of the time, you want to be making eye contact 30%,
Especially when you’re thinking, I know I kind of look over and I’m like, okay, you know, but you don’t want your eyes to. Give you a way that you’re checking out somebody else. Uh, how many guys have had that happen or, you know, that you’re, you’re not paying attention.
That’s what you don’t want. Eye contact shows where we are. And by the way, if you’re talking to a group, let’s say three people, you do want to give them even eye contact and then it’s okay.
Imagine a fourth person is there if there were three and that that’s what it’s okay to look off. So, about 25, 25, 25, and then 25 off. Again, you got to practice this, but once you do it, it becomes pretty easy. Now, at this point in the video, gents, I’ve covered a lot,
But I want to get to what I think to be are some of the strongest things that signal that a man is of high status. First up, being able to make a decision. Have you ever been around people that they cannot decide anything and they’re
Going back and forth and you realize that the reason they’re not going to make a decision is they are scared to make the wrong decision? Gents, if you can’t make a decision, you are going to come off as weak. You look throughout history.
Rulers, kings, emperors. What was their big role? These people at the top to make a decision. That’s the pressure of being on top. That’s the pressure of leadership. But here’s a secret that I learned that really helped me with this is that most decisions are revolving doors. It’s very,
It’s not very often that you’re going to make a life or death decision. Most decisions you can actually, if you make the wrong one. You can take a step back and then pivot, go the other direction. So,
If you know that you can adjust after you make a bad decision, you realize that, okay, like I need to make a quick decision based on the information I have. And then, if I find out it’s wrong, then I’m going to take a step back, I’m going to pivot, I’m going to adjust.
Being able to take charge, being able to lead, being able to make a decision when everyone else around you is losing their head, guys, is all of a sudden going to put you at the top when it comes to status. This next status tip I learned in college and then I actually
Used in my business career to actually level up my position in the industry is to host parties. And I still do this actually with masterminds. I bring together tons of business owners, many of them making a lot much more successful than me, but I still bring them in and I hold
High status. Why? Because I’m the organizer. I’m the one that brought it together. So, gents, if you want a shortcut to level up status in a group, host I get together, host a party, a place where people want to be.
And if you control the door, you all of a sudden level up simply because you are the owner. So, what tops all those? Well, the easy out would have been for me to say confidence. And I did want to put this one on there because, yes,
Confidence definitely gives you higher status, but a lot of guys are overconfident or they’re just coming off as arrogant and they don’t have anything to back up their confidence. No, I’m going to say actually making things Now, in style, the word is sprezzatura,
But what I’m talking about here is when people are around you, they just have a great time. Seriously, when people attend an event with you, all of a sudden it just seems like everything flows smoothly. You are the man. You make things happen.
Now, of course, behind the scenes. Transcribed There’s planning. You actually went through and you thought, okay, where’s this restaurant going to be? I’m going to know the head waiter because he’s seen me multiple times. The bill is going to be taken care of. No one’s
Going to be trying to split the check or whatever it is that they want to do. Everyone’s going to be surprised by how it was taken care of. You know how they’re going to have all the wines. They’re going to have exactly what you want. I’ve done
This with my family. I’ve done this with business friends. And I would say, yes, it costs a little bit of money, but all of that was planned. And I know that being able to give this experience to others is going to be repaid to me. And what
I love about this, gents, it doesn’t have to do with money. It could be you speak Chinese, maybe you speak Portuguese. You take her to that restaurant, the hole in the wall, amazing food. And she’s like trying to figure out what to eat.
And all of a sudden you start talking the waiter in a language that she didn’t even know you spoke. All of a sudden, oh my gosh, like this guy just he’s he’s so world travel. You’re not meaning to show off, but you are. And you’ve made the
Situation just beautiful. You’ve all of a sudden created an ambience and a feeling. All right, gents. What video to watch next? Well, boom, I got you covered with this one, top secret, actually not top secret. You can see what the video is right here,
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It’s interesting ~ I’m now in my middle age and learned these same skills as life has unfolded ~ we were very fortunate to grow up without smart phones and computers . men and women had interesting conversations and as a child ~ I listened , watched and learned. The kids today are behind the 8 ball .
Mostly everything you’ve pointed on I already do naturally without trying . Now that I watch your videos and others like it I realize now that I’ve been on the right journey and life path . Thank you again for your videos they are exactly what we need 🫡
May I make a suggestion? You speak of what makes a man high class and you are missing one thing yourself. The word 'Gents' is not high class. Refer to your listeners as 'Gentlemen' and the feeling is much higher status for you, and for them.
I almost clicked, good try though 🙂
I don't want to look high status, I don't want to bring attention to myself. I reveal nothing, therefore I always have the advantage. I let people assume what they will. And yes, I refuse to buy the Rolex, Omega, (insert any other bullshit brand here).
Funny about luggage. Yeah, I check high quality luggage. My carryon is all leather embossed luggage that I bought overseas, and on my last flight, TSA threatened to keep it and take it home for herself, and ladies on the jetway and the FA's onboard complimented me on my beautiful leather bag. I just need it for my laptop and my prescription drugs, but I noticed that everyone else on board had wretched plastic roller bags or canvas backpacks. So yeah, I get R-E-S-P-E-C-T. (that and my coat and tie.)
Don't eat, wear a coat and tie, and take opiods (or whatever pop drug keeps your eyes open and mouth shut.) Got it.
Power
Thanks for keeping us financially Educated! Regardless of how bad it gets on the economy, I still made over 175k this month
In my experience, it depends for wealthy people. When theyre talking to a richer sphere if people, such as when theyre with their own kind, sure they dress better. But when theyre out in the world, running errands, they dont dress as well. The epitome of high status I once saw was at this hospital and this kid with an ipad wearing higher end sneakers certain brands of clothes. The mother was wearing an hermes bag and a white monochrome outfit. Behind the two was this guy in flipflops, a t shirt, shorts, and holding an umbrella so poorly made it couldve been free. Despite that appearance he was probably the dad of the family and did not look like a driver at all. Perhaps it wad the hygiene, the posture, or the overall demeanor. He let his wife and kid do the talking while he personally didnt care. THAT was high status to me – a demeanor.
I rather work on self and project my real, than look high status{FAKE} lol. Choice. For you, by you
High status does not always mean going with the most expensive items available. While this does sometimes apply, most of the time wearing clothing that makes you feel comfortable in the setting is your best bet. When you are comfortable you will present yourself in a more confident way which not only helps with coming off as high status, but it is also proven that most people especially women like to be around men with confidence. So it is not always about the cost but what makes you feel your best!
In the UK actual older old money types buy their clothes from a place called Marks and Spencer’s. They tend to have bespoke made stuff for formal occasions. Tweeds and brogues for shooting days. All clothing items tend to be worn for decades. Especially Barbour jackets, good shoes such as John Lobb, Trickers, Crocket and Jones. Watches from the holy trinity, Girard Perregaux, Cartier, Jaeger LeCoulte, Parmigiani Fleur. Rolex, not so much. When wondering about the estates, British aristocratic men could easily be mistaken for a homeless person.
Many of these traits recommended are a lost art since business in general has changed due to social media, email, tik tok, Face book and much more technologically. As a once homeless young man living 9n a car to building three Corporations still owning two, traveling the world doing business, along with investing I learned early on by one simple paperback that was handed to me when I was 18. Oddly enough a Donald Trump business how to be successful book. I traveled the world with it reading. I actually still have it. But a few of his recommendations resonated with me. He stated when you walk into a room anyone and everyone will look at three things first taking in your presence. One, they look at your face and hair, two your clothes but most importantly whether you know it or not your shoes. Always have clean shoes. Shined if their the type. Interestingly I traveled thruout the world on numerous business deals and business opportunities and so many people I met with had terrible kept shoes. And they always commented about mine.
But more than everything stated here and even on this site that instilling TRUST, and that your someone someone could rely on has to come across in that first meeting. Trust so hard to find. And everyone and anyone with means and who is successful is desperately and quietly searching for that one man or woman that they can trust.
And thats what my business reputation globally was built on .
Clean shoes, a sharp haircut, groomed and that I could be trusted 24/7 and would not shy away from that trust over anything or anyone. No amount of money would change that.
And it built global relations and opened many investment doors.
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A genius, that’s humble. Simplifying complecity… much love from Saudi ❤
Haha and then i roll up in cattle class…..still hustling
Life is funny. What he's saying isn't wrong, but you will do naturally all that when you have the money. Try fake it and those who are rich will saw it. Super rich ppl want to talk w genuine person. If you want to attract, act as you dont want to attract (same for love btw). Ppl who are super rich dont care about your status, they're dealing all day w the same types of average+++, so they value a lot talking w genuine person as far as you talk about your ambition or your modest perspective about the changing world. I started this comment by "life is funny" because if you want to attract rich ppl your best bet is to not care about rich people. Same for money. If you want to make big money, you need to don't care about money (to be able to take big risks)
This video is really good, wauw
Great
*How to Look High Status to Slaves
A more accurate title…
How to be a Target!!!
Haha
We're lazy about our appearance. No real dress codes anymore.
Good content thank you for sharing subscribed.
stick to hermes
I always carry a $10k stack in my hand and wave it around at everyone. I tried gold bars but found that people didn't have a grasp of the actual value, even though it was much more, and the weight was a bit annoying if I was out all day.
Walk/move with a purpose and speak with conviction. That confidence will ooze easily.
I just rely on my BDE…..and, if you gotta ask, you don't have it.
ummm…. actual men of high status dont need to "look high status" They simply dont care what someone else thinks.
Lol at the shameless ad for luggage
There’s an unbelievable amount of work that goes into #1. You really have to put in the work to become That Guy. It seems effortless to others but you had to do a ton to make it happen.
Great video
If you need to dress a certain way to “look” or “feel” high status, then you’re not high status 😂.
just another ego driven status guy, smh
Good sht. High quality advice
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Great ideas bro
My look is Blue jeans, gray t shirt, toyota truck and a 15k breitling lol